Naomi and I have finished our Out of the Fog knitted sweaters!


The quick version of this blog post is this….On March 19, 2018 Naomi sent me a pattern from Ravelry as a gift and on October 13, sometime around midnight, I finished my sweater (long time knitter Naomi had finished hers long ago).

Those of you who knit are thinking “What’s the rest of the story?”  You are so wise.  Those of you who don’t knit are thinking “this knitting must be the easiest thing in the world” and I am wondering how we should break the news to them….knitting this sweater was kind of like child birth.  You know you are getting something good in the end but the process of birthing is something one does not care to repeat.

A brief review to catch you up is this…

In January 2018, dear Naomi dropped me off some knitting needles and yarn.  And then she left me to drive across the country with her husband and boys and I had to learn on my own.  She says she is a terrible teacher because of this.  I feel her not being here saved our friendship because the frustration level of learning to knit is HIGH. You can read the adventures in the beginning here.

To accurately portray learning to knit, you can watch this video.  It’s been posted to my timeline numerous times and it makes me laugh so hard I cry EVERY TIME.

Because knitting seemed to be my new favorite thing ever, I decided to knit a sweater.  In February.  Remember, I was a new knitter as of JANUARY.  And I went all rogue and began it on my own. You can read about us finding the yarn here, I think this photo of my husband pretty much sums it up.


I went to Hobby Lobby and bought some yarn I loved and I set out to make a sweater all rouge like.  I could figure this out!  It would take me awhile, yes, but I began knitting and I made amazing time.  I mean, I am talking like I was proud of myself.

Until I ran into a problem and since Naomi was clear across the country I sent her a photo and said “This doesn’t seem right”.  I had been using my favorite sweater, worn since I was pregnant for Isaac (S2) as my pattern.

Naomi called me.

“Honey, I am so sorry, you are going to have to take it all out.”

I hung up and cried.  And in all honesty, I kept this much of my twisted stitch made wrong sweater like this until I was desperate for yarn.

That’s when she sent me the Out of the Fog raglan sweater pattern as a gift.  Let’s remember those words: A GIFT.  And she said “I’ll make the sweater with you!”

She was in a truck somewhere in the country and it took me TWO HOURS ON THE PHONE with her to get this sweater started.  Two. Hours.  She says she doesn’t remember this.  I do.  I was sure this was going to be the death of me.

After two hours of work, this is what I had to show for it….

When Naomi would make it home for a day or two, she would bring her sweater over, give me pointers and write all over the pattern.  She was always knitting ahead of me so she could help me get to the next step.

What I never did take a photo of is after this photo, I kept knitting and I missed a whole step and when Naomi looked it over she told me to look away and pulled it out.  Pulled all those hours of work out in moments and balled it up for me and it went back to this size if not smaller.

And I started this sweater again.

We have lost count of how many phone calls, texts, youtube videos we have sent back and forth to each other to get us along on this sweater.

We have too many photos of my butt like this. I would have to show her how far I was compared to my ratty sweater I love and was replacing. I wanted it the same length.

Naomi has the patience of a saint and I had full faith in her that she could help me get through.  I could write on all the things this sweater, or even knitting in general, has taught me but it would be too long.  It’s literally a book worth of lessons learned.  And I really am thankful for the learning.

Look! We have collars on our sweaters!

In August, I was camping with my mom and I had brought the sweater to work on and I received an email….

The pattern we were following had gotten so many complaints it had been rewritten.  I printed that thing off as soon as I got home.

But because we are INSANE, we were so far along with the pattern and Naomi had made all the notes on it to get us through that we never even looked at the new pattern.

Around this time, I had run out of yarn.  I had asked Hobby Lobby for more since it wasn’t in the store and they assured me it was on it’s way.  I kept checking.  And checking.  And then I got the news, “So sorry, that yarn has been discontinued.”

I cried.  I put my head down and cried.  I was so close but I wasn’t close enough.

My dad, my dear wonderful father, painstakingly untangled a thing of yarn for me that I had knotted up terribly and that, dear people, is the yarn that is all around my collar.  It’s like a forever hug from my dad.

Eli (S3) went with me to find new yarn to finish the collar.  The knitting person was not on hand that day at Hobby Lobby and so we had to guesstimate what I would need.  There was no pressure with that! haha!

But we found a color we thought would work and had a fun day together.  When I see the pink collar, I’ll always think how Eli helped me so much throughout this sweater.  That boy can knit and create and amazes me constantly.

The collar on this sweater gave me such a fit.  It would not stay on the needles!  I was always recatching stitches and I was sure this thing would NEVER get done!

I didn’t realize HOW HUGE this collar really was!  And I have no idea how it ever was even on the tiny needles I was using.

When it came time to end this sweater…I feel Naomi’s text message were all in caps and “BIND OFF AND BE DONE”, it was such a surreal feeling.

It’s done.

The sweater is really done.

I felt like I had given birth and the baby was in my arms and now it had to go out into the world and I just didn’t have the heart to send it out.  I wanted to treasure it alone for a bit.  I only sent a few people, (Naomi, obviously! My mom….) a photo of the finished product.

What. An. Adventure.

The first time I wore the sweater out, I wanted one person, just one person, to ask me where I had gotten it so I could say “Oh, this? I made it”.  I know, total pride.  We walked into church and my new friend Kate took my hand and then said “THIS SWEATER!  I love it!” I beamed. “I made it.”

Kate is my new most favorite.

Last night (October 25), Naomi and I got together and Jake took a bunch of photos of us and then we sat down and recorded a youtube video in my dining room of the story of the sweater.  It’s all a snippet, really.  But Naomi knows all the technical terms while I am all “It was really hard.”

Here is that video!

Over the weekend, a dear dear friend came over and she took family photos of us.  My boys keep asking me if I am going to wear this sweater and I assure them they will get tired of seeing me in it.  I made sure that I scheduled the family photos when the sweater was done.  Abbie LaFountaine caught this photo….

This pretty much sums it all up.



Much like childbirth.  It’s hard, it feels as if you will never be done, you don’t really want to ever repeat it, there is no preparing for it, but you surely wouldn’t take back a moment of it.

Thank you SO MUCH for this wonderful gift, Naomi!

Because everyone is asking…the next project is socks for me.  Naomi has been making socks forever.  I was ready to give up last night.  So that will be our next knitting post!


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2 Responses to Knitting A Sweater Is Like Childbirth

  1. Ann DeHoog says:

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!! Everyone needs a Naomi! The sweaters turned out terrific and I think it was very intrepid to try much of your learning by yourself. Love you Denise!!

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